May 12, 2008
You may find in this site a display of my scrapbook projects. The owner of the site is a friend of mine that i met in multiply. She designs layouts for Multiply and elements for digital scrapbooking.
Visit her site and find out for yourself the lovely and intricate designs she gives out as scrapbooking kits.
March 11, 2008
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Codependency: Relationship difficulties between family members and between friends.
- Understand signs of codependency. There are many signs and most of them are related to boundaries. Like boundaries with personal "physical" space (ie. standing too close to someone in an elevator) people in codependent relationships interfere with others by invading emotional space. When you realize you feel uncomfortable when asked for help, a person close to you is always needing help and you are the main provider for comfort or any other support, or feeling pulled in many directions by the people closest to you.
- Explore books about codependency and its effects on the family and relationships. Look for material on the Internet and gain an understanding on the causes of the relationship difficulties.
- Codependent parents, for example, may rely on their grown children in unhealthy ways, reversing the parent-child dynamic. Pulling away from this dynamic is a positive move toward establishing healthy personal boundaries. It does not mean that you're a "bad" son or daughter, even if the parent claims that this is the case.
- Learning how to communicate our needs can help set those needed boundaries. When feeling frustrated, say "I feel frustrated."
- If your needs aren't respected, don't allow the intense needs of the other person to determine your own
- The best way to move out of a codependent relationship is to stop focusing on the other, and to focus on yourself and your health. When you put your need to grow, mature, and become a healthier person first, that will create a shift in your codependent relationship. Be aware that doing this work will destabilize the relationship and make things harder before it makes them better. Imagine you and the person with whom you have a codependent relationship are roped together and standing on ladders next to one another. As things are now, you are stabilized--on the same rungs on your ladders and the rope around you both is taught. You understand the unspoken rules of how you interact. Now, when you begin to get healthy, begin moving up your ladder, the other person in the relationship will feel the pull of the rope and try to pull you back down, may even move down her / his ladder a rung or two to get to you move back to where things were. This is normal. Continue your work to grow, mature, and become healthier.
- Eventually the other person will have to begin getting healthier as well or will have to rethink the importance of the relationship. (and generally, most folks will choose to get healthier, thus making the whole thing less codependent)
- If the other person does not come to respect your needs and/or growth, however, the healthiest choice is to maintain your boundaries and make choices that are independent of their needs. In worst-case scenarios, curtailing contact may be necessary for personal growth.
- Watch out for increased drama as you try to grow and mature, and to defend your healthy personal boundaries.
- Watch out for public attempts at sabatoge, which really is a codependent way for the other person in the relationship to embarrass or shame you into moving back down the ladder.
- It will hurt to move up your ladder of health, and it will feel like you are hurting the other person. Think of it more as the pain of healing an old wound, knowing the end result will be better for everyone concerned.
- Be honest about what you are doing and why, but know that you will most likely not be understood by the other, who will be so focused on pulling you back into old patterns.
- Codependent individuals, particularly partners and family members, may act out, blame you, or be manipulative in order to maintain their power. This is particularly true as you try to pull away and re-define your boundaries. Be prepared and hold firm to your health. Adults are responsible for their own well-being. They may not overcome their Codependency, but they will survive your move toward health.
- If you feel that they truly are acting out in response to your healthful progress in ways that are dangerous, encourage them to seek counseling.
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- How to Be Respectful of Your Family
- How to Aid a Sick Family Member
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March 09, 2008
Jessa Desuyo Pucot is in yellow shorts and pink tops shown in the photo with her arms around Mrs. Gail Evans. The older man to her right is the girl's grandfather who is the child's guardian. The other girl in red is Jessa's older sister Edna. The other young girl is Jessa's aunt. The two girls are living with their grandparents because their parents have separated and both are having second families of their own. The grandfather supports the family by loading/gathering gravels for constructions.
I would like to share with you the written "Sponsor Visit Comments" which is personally signed by Jeff and Gail Evans. (read as written by Mrs. Evans):
"We are very much enjoyed our visit & meeting with sponsored child & family. Staff at the student center, Winnie, Belen, Maricel & Melanie were quite helpful in showing us the student center, informing, answering questions and translating, etc. They all were very helpful in getting us around in the city and out to see our sponsored child's home & community. We're very pleased that we were allowed to spend most of the day with the family between the visit to the center, eating, shopping and the home visit. We are happy that the Lord has provided ways to bless the work of this project, the workers, the children and their families." Signed, Jeff & Gail Evans
Sponsor visits provide the workers insights to the sponsor's life and feelings. It is both a learning and bonding experience for the staff, the child & family and the sponsors. We praise God for privileges like these in our midst. You could just actually see the delight of the child and sponsors upon meeting personally. The regular correspondence between the child and the sponsor provides a personal connection between them. This is emphasized more when sponsors could come for a visit. They are able to experience the child's environment and situations.
TO GOD BE THE GLORY!
February 22, 2008
Biblical foundation: "As for me and my household, we will serve the LORD." Joshua 24:15b (NIV)
This is only one among the Core Values of Leadership of Compassion International. Read more here
Another thing to take note is that, even if some families are not in situations like in Kenya or other politically unstable nations, children are caught in despair and hardship due to lack of education and poverty. They belong to a complete family, some a large family, but exposed to parental conflict everyday of their lives. As a result children are apt to go astray and turn to bad influences. A vague future is in store for them still.
But fellow believers, we have a choice...... make one today, become a part of any cause such as Compassion or other child help organizations. Be a sponsor of one child from any country of choice or be a voice to speak up for this cause, or even a prayer partner. Pray for all children needing sponsors to find one for each today. Don't you love to see a smile that lights up a child's face?
Please don't hesitate, act today!
( The Statue represents the Virtue of Compassion)
In General Term/Layman's Term:
Compassion is often characterized through actions, wherein a person acting with compassion will seek to aid those they feel compassionate for. Acts of compassion are generally considered those which take into account the pain of others and attempt to alleviate that pain. In this sense, the various forms of the Golden Rule are in part based on the concept of compassion, if also on the concept of empathy.
Compassion differs from other forms of helpful or humane behavior in that its focus is primarily on the alleviation of pain and suffering. Acts of kindness which seek primarily to confer benefit rather than relieve existing pain and suffering are better classified as acts of altruism, although, in this sense, compassion itself can be seen as a subset of altruism, it being defined as the type of behavior which seeks to benefit others by reducing their suffering.
In Christian Term:
The example of Christ has also inspired Christians throughout history to fund hospitals and other such institutions. It is also Christ's example that challenges Christians to forsake their own desires and act compassionately towards others, especially, but not exclusively, towards those in some type of distress or need. This is typified in Jesus' statement from the sermon on the mount: * "Blessed are the merciful: for they shall obtain mercy."
Compassion can also be kindness towards a stranger that is unexpected in most situations. Compassion can be linked to generosity,
FROM ENCYCLOPEDIA OF SPIRITUAL KNOWLEDGE
Compassion is the main ethical principle of one’s relationships with other people and with all living beings, even with non-incarnate ones. This is the main aspect of love on the Earth and the first criterion in the ethical work. Doing of unnecessary harm to people or to other beings can never be justified in the eyes of God. But what harm can be considered “necessary”? For example, to cause pain or other damage to criminals when repelling their criminal deeds or defending other people from them. Another example is to punish children that frolic dangerously for themselves and for others. Also —restricting mentally diseased people. And so on. But revenging oneself cannot be justified: this is an egocentric reaction of the offended lower self that must not be allowed.
The one who realized the true love cannot cause pain to an animal for a meaningless reason. Such a person cannot eat corpses of killed animals: in their dead bodies there is the pain of their death. For example, Jesus expressed discontent, when He was hinted about the possibility to taste a “sacrificial” lamb at Passover: “Do you think that I am going to eat with you meat at Passover?” (Epiphanius, Haer., 22:4). Neither He nor His disciples ate bodies of animals except for fish; this follows from the words of apostle Peter (Acts 10:10-14). However, they did kill and eat fish. This is understandable: Jesus did not suggest to people too hard “upheavals” in the stereotypes of their lives. He could not say to fishermen: do not eat fish — fishermen would not listen anymore to such a preacher. Yet, for modern people it is possible to accept the principle of Love-Compassion as an ethical concept and to follow it as widely and completely as possible within the limits of rationality. For example, it makes no sense to ponder over whether it is allowed or not to kill a rabid dog or a wolf that attacks man, to kill mosquitoes, gadflies, ticks, etc. There is also no point in hesitating whether one has a right to kill plants for food, for building a fire, for construction, or to use milk products and eggs for food — we cannot develop on the Earth without doing this. And one’s food must be adequate, with a complete set of indispensable amino acids. However, killing or maiming plants for no meaningful reason is a different thing: for example, to pick “automatically” a leaf and throw it, to gather a bouquet of flowers, or to buy (to cut) a fir-tree for New Year or Christmas and admire how it dies. This is a meaningless death: people kill these plants not for the reason of survival and development, but out of fancy, because “everybody does this”, or because “I want it!”.
The true compassion originates from awareness that all of us — even vegetal creatures — are God’s children of different age, brothers and sisters of one His family. We all have objectively equal interests in the universe; we all are one. “Do not let each man look upon his own things, but each man also on the things of others. Let in you be the same disposition as was in Christ Jesus” (Philip 2:4-5). Empathy, sympathy, and mercy. The life of Christ reflects for Christians the very essence of the meaning of compassion. It has inspired many Christians throughout the centuries to care for the lame, deformed, broken-hearted, sick, dying and those who are in need. Christian compassion extends to all, even to placing a primacy on loving one's own enemies.
And thus, Compassion International exists and operates in all passion and dedication, to release children from poverty to help them become what God wants them to be responsible and mature adults. That's "LOVE IN ACTION."
History of Compassion in Philippines:
Compassion's work in the Philippines began in 1972. Currently, more than 41,300 children participate in more than 210 child development centers. Compassion partners with churches to help them provide Filipino children with the opportunity to rise above their circumstances and become all God has created them to be.
Cornerstone Student Center Program of Mabolo Evangelical Free Church located at Topaz Street, Casals Village, Mabolo, Cebu City is a partner church of Compassion International. We care for and implement programs to develop sponsored children in line with the guiding principles of CI. We are one of the pioneer partners of CI in Cebu Area. We have a number of success stories/alumnae who completed the 4 to 18 development program. They are now contributing leaders of their families, the church and the community. As of this writing we have in our care more than 200 supported children and we have some pending kids aged 4 waiting to be registered, meaning waiting to be sponsored.
Friends who happen to read this blog, I urge you to join this cause of releasing children from poverty and give them a chance to a better life and a future. Be involved in God's commission by selecting one child to support today. You could make a lot of difference in this way. One child at a time.
"Pity sees .... and even feels .... but compassion touches a need."
(Quoted from World Help calendar 2006)
February 21, 2008
Teachers on their way to a center
Desk work during a center day.
Teachers, parents and sponsored
One of those culminations and
programs wherein children present
parts. (In the picture, a girl leads the
A dance number
Older kids have another format. We follow the "Youth Completion Program" to prepare them for their future careers. A folder is being compiled for each child wherein all aspects, growth, cases, progress and monitoring on all 4 areas are being kept and maintained. You will be able to see also the periodic updates of each child and see their pictures every time updates are made.
Other activities like field trips, sports fest, workshops and even dental and medical check-ups are inculcated in a center day. They are being scheduled and some activities outside the center is being accomplished by grade-level. All of these should fall under an approved plan of action for each school year. This is where the support of Compassion International sponsors are made to work in order to develop the children to become responsible leaders in their churches, school and community.
February 20, 2008
"So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed" John 8:36
these are the pics of the crucifixion of Christ that a man sculptured out of metal near Amarillo, Texas.
The cross is a giant made of metal also. The man did this out of the kindness of his heart. Someone donated the land to him.
HE IS JESUS
WHO IS HE?
N CHEMISTRY, HE TURNED WATER TO WINE.
IN BIOLOGY, HE WAS BORN WITHOUT THE NORMAL CONCEPTION;
IN PHYSICS, HE DISAPPROVED THE LAW OF GRAVITY WHEN HE ASCENDED INTO HEAVEN;
IN ECONOMICS, HE DISAPPROVED THE LAW OF DIMINISHING RETURN BY FEEDING 5000 MEN WITH TWO FISHES & 5 LOAVES OF BREAD;
IN MEDICINE, HE CURED THE SICK AND THE BLIND WITHOUT ADMINISTERING A SINGLE DOSE OF DRUGS,
IN HISTORY, HE IS THE BEGINNING AND THE END;
IN GOVERNMENT, HE SAID THAT HE SHALL BE CALLED WONDERFUL COUNSELOR, PRINCE OF PEACE;
IN RELIGION, HE SAID NO ONE COMES TO THE FATHER EXCEPT THROUGH HIM;
SO, WHO IS HE?
HE IS JESUS!
JOIN ME AND LET'S CELEBRATE HIM; HE IS WORTHY.
THE EYES BEHOLDING THIS MESSAGE SHALL NOT BEHOLD EVIL, THE HAND THAT WILL SEND THIS MESSAGE TO EVERYBODY SHALL NOT LABOR IN VAIN, AND THE MOUTH SAYING AMEN TO THIS PRAYER SHALL SMILE FOREVER. REMAIN IN GOD AND SEEK HIS FACE ALWAYS. AMEN
IN GOD I'VE FOUND EVERYTHING!
The Greatest Man in History
Jesus had no servants, yet they called Him Master.
Had no degree, yet they called Him Teacher.
Had no medicines, yet they called Him Healer.
He had no army, yet kings feared Him.
He won no military battles, yet He conquered the world.
He committed no crime, yet they crucified Him.
He was buried in a tomb, yet He lives today.
I feel honored to serve such a Leader who loves us!
The source site
I came upon this site and I read about "Who Is Jesus?" So I linked on that "photo" section if you like to find the origin of this blog. It contains pictures of a piece of lot donated to the sculptor who painstakingly sculpted and designed Jesus' painful and sacrificial journey to Calvary. The site (Calvary) is so beautiful in the pictures and so lovingly and masterfully done. You just can't help but think about what Jesus did for us on the road to Calvary. He died a sinner's death because of me. He was beaten and shamed instead of me. And He did it gladly because of me. He first loved me. Should I waste such grace by not acknowledging His invitation? Thank you so much my Lord! I am spared the wrath by your love. Ephesians 2:8,9 "For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith-and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God-not by works, so that no one can boast."
Enjoying the fruits of their labor-barbeque dinner on
Fun and teamwork during games & hurdles
Activity time after the devotion
The white sands of Duran Beach, Tabuelan, Cebu, Phils.
These are some of the photos taken during our Kids' Camp in the summer of 2006.
Our favorite campsite is a very lovely and peaceful beach called Duran's Beach Resort located in Tabuelan, Cebu. It has a vast sandy beach which is safe even for little kids.
We have had so much fun and learnings in this campsite. As you can see in the pictures I have posted here, the youth learn to play as teams, they share prayers and insights during quiet times and devotions, learn how to do chores like cooking, cleaning and housekeeping, and they enjoy each other's company and fun at game times.
The kids, most often, have their first encounter with the savior Jesus Christ during one of these campings. It is our intention to administer to these sponsored kids to have a meaningful life through our alternative learning activities, carefully programmed to address the four most important areas of growth, namely: social, spiritual, economic and physical.
Lastly, let me introduce to you our Compassion International supported Student Center Program here in Cebu City, Philippines. The project name is "Cornerstone Student Center Program."
February 19, 2008
Matt. 5:13 I am the salt of the earth.
Matt. 5:14 I am the light of the world.
John 1:12 I am a child of God (part of His family). (see Rom. 8:16)
John 15:1,5 I am part of the true vine, a channel (branch) of His (Christ's) life.
John 15:15 I am Christ's friend.
John 15:16 I am chosen and appointed by Christ to bear His fruit.
Rom. 6:18 I am a slave of righteousness.
Rom. 6:22 I am enslaved to God.Rom. 8:14, 15 I am a son of God (God is spiritually my father). (see Gal. 3:26 & 4:6)
Rom. 8:17 I am a joint-heir with Christ sharing inheritance with Him
1 Cor. 3:16 & 6:19 I am a temple (home) of God. His spirit (His life) dwells in me.
1 Cor. 6:17 I am joined (united) to the Lord and am one spirit with Him.
1 Cor. 12:27 I am a member (part) of Christ's body. (see Eph. 5:30)
2 Cor. 5:17 I am a new creation (new person).
2 Cor. 5:18, 19 I am reconciled to God and am a minister of reconciliation. Gal. 3:26, 28 I am a son of God and one in Christ. Eph. 1:1 I am a saint. (see 1 Cor. 1:2; Phil. 1:1; and Col. 1:2) Eph. 2:10 I am God's workmanship (handiwork) created (born new) in Christ to do His work that He planned beforehand that I should do. Eph. 2:19 I am a fellow citizen with the rest of God's people in His family.
Eph. 3:1 & 4:1 I am a prisoner of Christ.
Eph. 4:24 I am righteousness and holy.Phil. 3:20 I am a citizen of heaven and seated in heaven right now. (see Eph. 2:6)
Col. 3:3 I am hidden with Christ in God.
Col. 3:4 I am an expression of the life of Christ because He is my life.
Col. 3:12 I am chosen of God, holy and dearly loved.
1 Thes. 1:4 I am chosen and dearly loved by God.
1 Thes. 5:5 I am a son of light and not of darkness.
Heb. 3:1 I am a holy brother, partaker of a heavenly calling. Heb. 3:14 I am a partaker of Christ…I share in His life.
1 Pet. 2:5 I am one of God's living stones and am being buit up (in Christ) as a spiritual house.
1 Pet. 2:9, 10 I am a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation.
1 Pet. 2:11 I am an alien and stranger to this world I temporarily live in.
1 Pet. 5:8 I am an enemy of the devil. 1 John 3:1, 2 I am now a child of God. I will resemble Christ when He returns.
1 John 5:18 I am born of God and the evil one (the devil) cannot touch me.
"I am not the great ""I AM' (Ex. 3:14; Jn. 8:24, 28, 58), but " "by the grace of God "
"I am what I am." (1 Cor. 15:10)"
AFTER KNOWING WHO GOD IS IN YOUR LIFE.... KNOW WHO YOU ARE IN HIM......
By this knowledge in you heart, you will never go astray or regret you were ever born! You are precious in His eyes.. He knows you before you were born..... and nothing will ever befall you without his blessing.
Therefore, LET YOUR LIGHT SO SHINE!
In the picture: the author, left; Ms. Collen Po (PH-900 Program Coordinator) center; and Ms. Maricel Delicano
The site is Tubod Springs located in Minglanilla, Cebu City, Philippines.
During this training camp, the staff, especially the caseworkers, group together and exchange ideas of what they have learned to make presentations.
Our own project dates back from the late seventies. The format was them Family Helper Program with which we gave monthly dole-outs to the sponsored kids. We have come a long long way from then into what we are doing now. We are now a result-oriented-program-based child advocacy project supported by CI.
Note: I will be posting some details of our evolution later.